My husband m0cked me at a pool party, saying I WASN’T as attractive as his brother’s new wife — so I put him in his place. After our second child was born, I quickly went back to work because my husband, Carl, had been laid off during company downsizing. I was overwhelmed by work, exhaustion, caring for a baby and our three-year-old son, and the constant chaos of having two young children. There was always cleaning or cooking to do. With that crazy schedule, I stopped taking care of myself. I forgot what going to the gym was like. I forgot what it was like to wear makeup, heels, or dresses. There simply wasn’t time for any of it. I was sure Carl would support me, just as I had supported him through this difficult period. But instead, he started making comments like: “”You’ve gained A LOT OF WEIGHT lately. Maybe it’s time for you to go to the gym?”” Or: “”Have you seen Alice? SHE’S THE DEFINITION OF BEAUTY. She dances beautifully, has an athletic body, and wears short skirts. And you?”” Alice was his brother’s new wife. Carl and his brother often talked about how perfect Alice was. She was athletic and took heels dance classes. Still, I tried to keep the peace in the family and calmly explained to Carl that, right now, I was simply trying to SURVIVE with a schedule like mine. And I held on to the hope that he understood me. But no. Yesterday, he threw a pool party at our house for his 40th birthday. The house was full of guests, and everyone was swimming. I changed into my swimsuit and walked over to the pool. Suddenly, Carl and his brother started LAUGHING. When I asked what was going on, Carl said: “”Sorry, I couldn’t help laughing. Alice was just swimming, and she CLEARLY looks MORE ATTRACTIVE in a swimsuit than you do.”” It hurt to hear that. But I just thought, I’VE HAD ENOUGH. It was time for Carl to learn his lesson. So I grabbed the microphone and said: “”Everyone, I’d like to make a toast and wish my husband a happy birthday. So listen CAREFULLY…”” When I finished speaking, I WATCHED CARL TURN AS RED AS A TOMATO.

My husband m0cked me at a pool party, saying I WASN’T as attractive as his brother’s new wife — so I put him in his place.  After our second child was born, I quickly went back to work because my husband, Carl, had been laid off during company downsizing.  I was overwhelmed by work, exhaustion, caring for a baby and our three-year-old son, and the constant chaos of having two young children. There was always cleaning or cooking to do.  With that crazy schedule, I stopped taking care of myself. I forgot what going to the gym was like. I forgot what it was like to wear makeup, heels, or dresses. There simply wasn’t time for any of it.  I was sure Carl would support me, just as I had supported him through this difficult period. But instead, he started making comments like:  “”You’ve gained A LOT OF WEIGHT lately. Maybe it’s time for you to go to the gym?””  Or:  “”Have you seen Alice? SHE’S THE DEFINITION OF BEAUTY. She dances beautifully, has an athletic body, and wears short skirts. And you?””  Alice was his brother’s new wife. Carl and his brother often talked about how perfect Alice was. She was athletic and took heels dance classes.  Still, I tried to keep the peace in the family and calmly explained to Carl that, right now, I was simply trying to SURVIVE with a schedule like mine.  And I held on to the hope that he understood me.  But no.  Yesterday, he threw a pool party at our house for his 40th birthday.  The house was full of guests, and everyone was swimming. I changed into my swimsuit and walked over to the pool. Suddenly, Carl and his brother started LAUGHING.  When I asked what was going on, Carl said:  “”Sorry, I couldn’t help laughing. Alice was just swimming, and she CLEARLY looks MORE ATTRACTIVE in a swimsuit than you do.””  It hurt to hear that.  But I just thought, I’VE HAD ENOUGH.  It was time for Carl to learn his lesson. So I grabbed the microphone and said:  “”Everyone, I’d like to make a toast and wish my husband a happy birthday. So listen CAREFULLY…””  When I finished speaking, I WATCHED CARL TURN AS RED AS A TOMATO.

The nursery clock glowed 5:00 a.m. when Onica finally settled against my shoulder. I swayed gently in the same old rocking chair where I’d once fed Bradley three years before. My phone alarm would soon remind me it was time to pump before grabbing a shower.

A small voice drifted in from the hallway.

“Mama? Is it morning-morning or nighttime-morning?”

“It’s shhh-morning, buddy,” I whispered back. “Go crawl in with Daddy. I’ll come get you soon.”

“Daddy’s snoring.”

“I know, sweetheart. He’s very good at it.”

Tiny footsteps padded away, followed by a soft thump and silence. I closed my eyes for all of four seconds before Onica hiccupped herself awake again.

By seven, I stood in the kitchen pumping beneath my blazer while stirring oatmeal one-handed. My laptop sat open on the counter, already loading the marketing presentation for my nine o’clock meeting.

I’d gone back to work only weeks after Onica’s birth because my husband, Carl, had lost his job during the company’s latest round of layoffs.

Carl wandered into the kitchen, hair sticking out in every direction, phone already in his hand.

“Coffee ready?”

“You’ll have to make it,” I said.

“Rough one?”

“She was up at two, four, and five.”

“You’ll have to make it.”

He grunted, kept scrolling, and instinctively angled his screen away when I looked over.

Probably sports highlights.

Or maybe job listings.

I chose to believe it was the second option because questioning anything else felt exhausting.